By Alicia Thorne




If the words “I hate my life” have been crossing your mind regularly of late, then you should do something before things get out of hand and your life feels like a living hell. Yes, life can get tough sometimes, but that’s true for everyone; not just you. But when you start feeling like there is nothing to celebrate about your life, then the problem is not your life but your mindset.

Research puts the number of people suffering from major depression in the US every year at over 15 million. Yea, lots of people are struggling in life and wallowing in despair. And sure, some people have a harder life than everyone else. But some cross over to the dark side and start feeling worthless. When you cannot shake that feeling, then you will eventually start saying to yourself, “I hate my life.”

At the end of the day, it’s not that people hate life. It’s just that their emotional health is a little wanting. Happiness, research shows, has nothing to do with material achievements. Happiness comes from within. And so, you can stop hating your life by changing how you see yourself and the world. Even though you can never permanently avoid pain in this life, you can determine how much it affects you.

If you are thinking, “I hate my life” then here’s what you can do to turn things around.

1. Stop Being Your Own Worst Critic


You don’t get to a point where you think your life sucks unless you have turned against yourself. While it’s easy brushing off negative comments people make about you, it’s much harder ignoring the negative perceptions you have about your own life. There is no worse critic than your inner critic. The negative thoughts you entertain can easily overwhelm you. And fighting against these perceptions can be a little hard, but it can be done.

First of all, you can start listening more to people who say positive things about you. Such comments can reach out to the parts of you that still believe there’s hope for you. Over time, you will notice the bad perceptions disappear and you will feel more positive about your life. More importantly, you need to accept that you are not perfect and that it’s okay.
You also need to learn how to relax, address the issues that you complain the most about, set goals, and make a plan to achieve them.

2. The Reason You Say “I Hate My Life” Might Be Due To Ungratefulness

As much as I hate to say it, one of the reasons people hate their lives is because they cannot appreciate all the good things about it. So, don’t be someone who dwells only on the things that are going wrong in your life. Learn to be grateful, and you will find your life to be a little more lovable. Studies have shown that people who are grateful are much happier than those who aren’t. No matter how bad you think your life is, there is always something to be grateful for. In one way or another, your life could be much worse than it already is. Some people don’t have the support you get from your family and loved ones. Many people are dreaming about the job you are doing and how far you have come in your personal life. 

By appreciating these things, you will hardly have any time to feel hateful about the bad things happening in your life. Every day, you should be grateful for the things that have gone well during the day. Even if it takes a minute to come up with a list, it’s worth it. So learn to be grateful, and your life will be happier.

3. Make Sure You Are Getting Enough Sleep 

Adequate sleep can solve a lot of life problems, including the psychological stress that makes you feel your life is hell. When you have quality sleep, you can wake up feeling fresh and more optimistic. Additionally, good sleep solves some emotional issues by ensuring you can handle the challenges life throws your way with greater resilience.

So, if you are feeling that your life is terrible, try to find out if you are getting enough sleep. The problem could be something else entirely, but lack of sleep could also be the reason you think your life is a drag.

4. Let Your Loved Ones In

No one is an island. We need each other, especially those we love and care about. So to overcome your “I hate my life” sentiments, let people who want the best for you into your life. These people can see things in you might not see in yourself. They will cheer you up when you are feeling down and give you honest opinions about how to make your life happier.

Besides, when things get a little too hard, you will have a shoulder to cry on. However, if you get the feeling that they can’t handle what’s ailing you, you can always enlist the help of a therapist.

5. Be More Resilience

We all need some level of resilience to make it through this life. Luckily, we can all cultivate some resilience if we want to. Life will not always be easy, no matter how far you go in life. That is why you need to be resilient to make it through various hardships in this life.
Being resilient does not mean having the ability to keep everything under control. It has a lot more to do with accepting that some things will sometimes get out of control and that there’s little you can do about it.

So learn to see challenges as part of life and don’t let them determine what direction your life takes. Your goal in life should remain in place despite the hurdles that come up along the way.

6. Ask Yourself, “Whose Life I’m I Living?” 

When it gets to the point where you start thinking you hate your life, know that something else has gone wrong in your life. Usually, it’s a sign that you are not living the life you wanted. At some point in your life, you decided to let go of your dreams and do what everyone told you to do. Just like that, you started living a life that you never envisioned you’d have. 

 You thought that if your family and friends were happy with the life you were living, you would be happy too. But it didn’t turn out that way, because nobody can change what lies deep within your heart. At some point, the true desires regarding your life will overwhelm you and contradict the life you are living. That will stress you out and you will start to hate your life. The solution here is simple: you have to embrace who you are and have the boldness to live the life you truly desire.Ignoring everyone’s expectations and focusing on what you really love is not easy. But with some effort it can be done. You might get some resistance from those close to you at first, but in the end, the happiness you get from pursuing your real-life purpose will exceed any such challenges. 

 The greater problem is that many people cannot really tell the difference between their true desires and expectations and societal expectations. And don’t feel bad, most people don’t figure out their life’s purpose early in life. But over time, that purpose should be clear to you.

Think about what makes you happy, and what you thought you should do with your life. You can start by thinking about the things you loved as a child; what you would do with your time if you never had a job; the thing that makes you forget the world all around you; what you like to think about and so on. Once you have figured everything out, you can start doing a little of it every day. And before you know, odds are that you will start wondering why you thought your life was so miserable, to begin with.

7. Get Rid Of The Negative Triggers 

If you keep thinking about how bad your life is, then chances are that there are negative triggers making you suffer through this vicious cycle of mental torture again and again. For instance, if you constantly compare yourself to other people, then you can try staying off social media.

Fortunately, with every negative thing that makes you feel down, there’s something you can do about it. So, make an effort to distance yourself from the things that cause negative triggers.

8. Build Your Self-Esteem

What do you think about yourself? Ultimately, that dictates how you feel about your life. 
So, you can try to build your self-esteem. One way to do it is to make a list of all the things you love about yourself. You can even start at 10. For instance, consider how loyal you are to your friends.
Also include things they say you are good at – those also matter. In addition to identifying all the positive things about your life, make them the focus of your life and see your confidence grow. Eventually, you will start wondering what you hated so much about your life, to begin with. 

9. Be Generous With Your Time To Love Your Life

Usually, when people say they hate their lives, they also mean that they hate other people. It’s hard to find someone who thinks the worst of their lives while thinking the best of those around them. By giving your time to others, you will find out that you are worthy of love and attention. These people will notice your achievements and assure you that you deserve to be happy for all that you have done. 

When you give to others, they can become the source of confidence and joy you cannot find within yourself. Hating yourself does not mean the world hates you. And realizing this might make you take the focus off the self-loathing you have.

In any case, interacting with people and celebrating and supporting them will help you have greater courage in being the person you can love. You can be the person you like to meet, and the person you thought you would be when you were younger if you are willing to give your time to others.

10. People Often Say “I Hate My Life” When They Lack Self-care

I know how obvious this sounds, but it’s the absolute truth. Sometimes we get so caught up with our busy lives that we forget to take care of ourselves and love ourselves. There are times you have to come first, no matter what people think. Because the longer you put it off, the worse you will feel about your life.
Your emotional, social, and physical well-being are very important. And when you ignore these aspects of yourself, you will feel disconnected and feel like your life really sucks. When you do things that please you, your brain rewards you with serotonin and you feel more positive about your life. So, eat healthy, work out, spend time with friends and loved ones, and treat yourself from time to time.

Life is precious, and it’s to be cherished and enjoyed regardless of how successful you are. So, if it gets to the point where you start telling yourself “I hate my life”, make sure you do something to turn things around.

Source : Thought Nova